Updated: Feb 19, 2020
Hello, world. It’s been a very long time. As to the why…I don’t really have a reason. If anyone cares to read the last post from Dec, 2008 (Pursuing What You Love) , then I guess I could kind of continue from there with the fact that I did get the job I spoke of in that post, and have been in it ever since. I think, at first, I did not write because I was focusing on trying to do what I spoke of in that post…learn how not to sub-consciously put myself in some position of superiority, but to really live out love with the people I encounter.
I would say that at first I did pretty well with that, reigning in internal grumblings that would usually cause me to become frustrated with co-workers or work in general, i.e. my schedule being changed from 8-4 to 10-6. I wasn’t a fan of that, but in trying to live the servant life, took it all in stride and figured God had it all in control, so I didn’t make a fuss.
However, as with all things, I am confessing now that the novelty of being loving seems to have worn off, and I am back to being grouchy with others and thinking about myself and what I want all the time instead of living in the knowledge that most of the things I am wanting or I am frustrated with are not important AT ALL. Realizing that I have slowly allowed satan to creep back up on me in this area is just making me frustrated with myself, and I have not managed to pull out of the cycle yet.
It comes back to re-surrendering “self.” Allowing the Holy Spirit to take control again, which will in turn cause me to live as Christ did, unconcerned with self-promotion, unfazed by injustices done to me, actively seeking the good of all I come in contact with, whether friend of foe or some intertwined mess of both. Most people are that, you know. Most of the time, the people we have a hard time with are those we would call our loved ones and our friends. They are not enemies, and yet we treat them, or at least feel inside that we must always be prepared to stick up for ourselves and our own rights against them, or else they will all constantly be taking advantage of us or taking us for granted. The bottom line is that even if that’s true, it’s not our job to make sure we are treated correctly or recognized sufficiently by everyone around us. That is not the reward.
The reward for acting like Christ is never shown as a warm, fuzzy existence in which no one will ever get mad at you or treat you unfairly. Paul was repeatedly imprisoned and held on false charges which the government knew to be false, people routinely tried to kill him, and he was in multiple shipwrecks. Christ Himself had it no better.
This is not to say that we should react smugly to poor treatment as if we are martyrs who must be living the Christ-life to be treated this way…that only comes from condescension which has nothing to do with love. Our responses to others must not be based on their responses to us. Love your enemies and the Golden Rule do not give conditions. If I am walking in love because I am waiting for the world around me to applaud my behavior, I will always grow weary, because there will never been enough praise. There will always be at least one person around me who cannot be pleased or who finds something wrong with what I do. If I walk in love because Christ is in my Spirit, and He is living through me, nothing can burn me out…on the condition that I continue to seek Him above all things.
That is the key. I believe through this after a time, I stopped seeking my strength, my identity, my validation in Him, and started looking to others for approval and reward. That is when my spirit grew cold, and “loving” started to seem like an impossible drudgery.
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